ROMANCE

"Mom, romance is dead. It was acquired in a hostile takeover by Hallmark and Disney, homogenized, and sold off piece by piece."
- Lisa Simpson

JOIN THE rebellion against The Empire

The way we communicate our love today is influenced by the commercialised notion of romance conjured by the empire. We have been forced to accept how, where and when we show our love.

No more. We are the Rebellion and romance is not about buying overpriced roses or giving pre-written cards only on Valentine's day.

With the person you love, everyday should be a Valentine day.

There are many special ways to let that special someone know how you feel. Sharing your life and opening up your heart is perhaps the best way to show your romantic inclinations towards another person. A gift from the heart is more priceless than anything you could ever buy.

Romance is one of the key components to a successful relationship and there are many other wonderful ways to say "I Love You"

In order to change the tide on the commercial empires, we need you. One man with a club is a hooligan. A thousand men with clubs are a regiment.

May the Force be with you.


Art of Online Romance

Inspired by You've Got Mail, many of us are entranced by the idea of an online romance. (Who didn't wish she were Meg Ryan reading Tom Hanks' inspiring emails?) But how do you actually do it? We all know the offline dating ritual -- meet for coffee or drinks, move to the "dinner and a movie" stage, plan more frequent and longer dates. But how does that translate to the world of online love?

Just like Grandma
Electronic romance, as revolutionary as it seems, actually has an old-fashioned feel. "Lovers once made a common practice of exchanging romantic letters," says Trish. "They loved and adored each other from afar and longed for the day that they would be together. The love and desire coursing through their hearts got translated into prose that they then put to paper. And while in days of old messengers were entrusted to deliver the words of one lover to another, today the Internet has become that messenger."

Create a good first impression
When it comes to that first email, where you're tentatively putting your heart out on the line, many of us get the electronic equivalent of dry mouth -- or worse, say things better saved for down the line out of nervousness. How do you walk the line between being friendly and over-intimate?

Experiment and find a style that works for you. Use the subject line like a headline, proofread, and be creative, positive and genuine. Avoid anything canned or trite.

Pick-up lines don't work, and you will rarely make a good first impression, or get a response using one. First emails should always be individually written and work best when conversational in style.

Mention something about the recipient's profile. Where did you sense a connection? Ask a question or two and include some brief information about yourself.

It's okay to flirt or tease a little, even during your first contact, but keep things light and friendly.

Moving things along
Remember that your words may not be read by your new flame's eyes alone: He or she may open it at work, or in the presence of friends. ('Fess up: You've shown all YOUR friends love letters, haven't you?) So don't write anything you'd be embarrassed to be confronted with later, say when you meet his friends a few months from now. Keep the following in mind:

Set the mood with the subject line. Try something like "To Be Opened When You're All Alone And Missing Me." Or "For Your Eyes Only."

Test the water. If your relationship seems to be moving from friendship to something steamier, introduce your romantic exchanges gradually. Rather than a long outpouring of your every romantic inclination, try something brief like, "I found myself thinking about you today in a manner that somewhat surprised me. Want to know more?"

Help each other out. Always respond promptly to any romantic advances you wish to encourage. It's tough to hang out there wondering whether your message hit or missed.

Get inspired
The articulation of our deepest romantic desires comes easily to some of us (generally but not always women), while for others it is a seemingly impossible task. If you fall into the romantically impaired category, don't give up. Online romantic correspondence is part talent and part inspiration. Here are some tips for translating what's in your heart into words on the screen:

Relax and get in the right mood for romance. Have a glass of wine, play some seductive music and dim the lights. As you loosen yourself up your words will come more easily.

Write about feelings, not facts: "I was delighted and a little excited to find your email waiting for me this morning."

Tease and banter: "You say you have a big heart. Hmmmm. I have some expertise in this area. So tell me exactly how big it is, and with what instrument you measure?"

Pay attention to the day-to-day details of your special someone's life: "I imagine you sitting at your antique pine desk, sipping your peppermint tea, wearing something blue that brings out the pools of aqua in your eyes. What a lovely sight. And I'm wondering, as you read this, are you thinking about me?"

Get physical: "Across all these miles I am reaching out and taking your hand, surprised at how warm and smooth it is. And I am still holding on as I look into your eyes and search for a little more of you there."

LOVE

I believe that apart from our physical form on this planet we also have another side. A side that realizes our true essence, is a being of light.

Sometimes when you meet someone, and it is really special, you can almost imagine a cord of light extending from you to them.

And as this cord begins to glow with the warmth of that connection, you can actually feel what is taking place.

That deep connection, that eternal bond, like you have always known this person, as if, they have always been with you.

When this happens, it is something to be treasured.

Learn how to build a strong foundation for your relationship with friendship, respect and passion.

Discover how you can induce love by using strategies of persuasion based on behavioral psychology principle.

Loving Someone

Don't find love, let love find you. That's why it's called falling in love because you don't force yourself to fall, you just fall.

Once you accept someone for who and what they really are, they will surprise you by being better than you ever expected. LOVE is loving/accepting a person with all his/her strength and weaknesses.

Lucky is the man who is the first love of a woman but luckier is the woman who is the last love of a man.

When two friends fall in love they learn they are meant for each other. When they fall out of love they realize they want to keep each other forever.

Find time to realize that there is one person who mean so much to you, for you might wake up one morning losing that person who you thought meant nothing to you.

Love is seeing yourself through someone's eyes and finding yourself in somebody's heart.

Once you have loved, you will always love. For what's in your mind may escape but what's in your heart will remain forever.

A ball is a circle, no beginning, no end. It keeps us together like your circle of friends. But the treasure inside, for you to see, is the treasure of friendship you've given to me.

Letting go has never been easy and holding on can be as difficult. Yet strengths measured not by holding on but by letting go.

True LOVE doesn't have a happy ending, that's because true love doesn't have an ending.

Men vs. women: Men would rather sacrifice love to conquer the world. Women would rather give up the world just to be with someone worth the sacrifice.

Decision should not be the choice of your heart or mind but sensible balancing of both.

Some thoughts are better left unsaid, some feelings are better left kept to yourself, but love has it's way of expressing itself despite the silence.

The happier the memory, the deeper it hurts.

There are so many stars in the sky only some are radiant enough to be noticed. Among those you choose to ignore is the one which was willing to shine for you forever even if your glance remained elsewhere.

It breaks your heart to see the one you love is happy with someone else... but it's more painful to know that the one you love is unhappy with you.

Whoever undertakes to set himself up as a judge of Truth and Knowledge is shipwrecked by the laughter of the gods.
- Albert Einstein (1879-1955)

DATING

Dating Tips

You don't need a fairy godmother, travel in a magic pumpkin coach or wear Cinderella's glass shoes to enjoy the joys of dating with the person you like.

Our dating guide covers everything from getting dates, asking for the date to what to talk during the date and how to end the date.

Don't worry. If you stayed one moment longer than midnight, your magic coach would not be a pumpkin again, your horses will not turn to mice, your coachman will not become a rat, your footmen will not turn back to lizards, and your clothes won't become just as they were before.

Go, have your fun.

We will take care of the mice, rat and lizards. You take care of your clothes.

Ideas For Your First Date

# Go out for dinner then a movie. Having dinner together lets you get to know them better while watching the movie together provides the perfect atmosphere to just get used to them without having to talk too much.

# Go out to eat, sit and talk and give a small kiss goodnight.

# Have a picnic at a lake under the moonlight.

# Walk along the beach at night.

# Have dinner, watch a movie and end the night by playing video games at a local arcade together.

# Holding hands while walking in the park, getting to know each other.

# Go out to eat, watch a movie, have a moonlight walk on the beach ending the evening with the perfect kiss.

# Go out to dinner then spend time together at a coffee shop getting to know each other.

# Getting to know each other in the back of a truck on a back road under a starry sky.

# Laying by the fireplace with romantic music and candlelight getting to know each other.

# Go out dancing together.

# Have a candlelight dinner, dance under the stars followed by a romantic stroll

Etiquette Of Dating

Etiquette is a voluminous subject. There are many good books on etiquette, as well as the etiquette of dating in specific. A few pointers are in order here, however.

The rules of etiquette in dating have changed somewhat in recent years. However, since the male usually still does the driving, he should open the car door for his date. This is a little nicety that contributes much to the overall atmosphere during the date. When the two arrive at their destination, he should open the door for his date again.

When the evening is over, the man should see the lady to the door. It is not enough to simply drive up to her house and open the car door for her. He should walk her up to the door of her home and see that she is safely inside before he leaves. This gives the lady the feeling of being protected.

Further, the man should hold open the doors of restaurants and other establishments for the lady as well as help her with her chair when she is seated, unless she shows a desire to do these things for herself.


"Should I kiss on the first date?" You didn't think I would skip over this question, did you? The answer is no. The most mistaken idea among young people is that a goodnight kiss is mandatory. When reduced to such a common level, the kiss loses all depth of meaning. The guy is requesting a privilege he has not earned. The lady is indicating that her kisses are not worth much. The kiss should be an indication of a special bond between two people.

When is a kiss appropriate? Not sooner than the second date, maybe later. It will mean so much more if it is not given out too freely. Am I old-fashioned on this subject? Maybe so. But maybe a little "old-fashionedness" is a good thing now and then.

How does a guy know when to kiss a girl good night? He can tell by how much affection she has shown during a dating relationship. She has liked holding hands, she sat a bit closer, she put her head on his shoulder, she lingers at the door trying to think of something to say...then she is receptive to a kiss. There is a feeling in the air that a kiss would be welcome.

Another question is whether it is it proper to have more than one boyfriend or girlfriend at the same time. As far as the rules of etiquette go, it is perfectly acceptable to have more than one dating partner.

However, as far as the laws of human nature go, little jealousies are bound to spring up if one dating partner believes that the other is not really committed to him or her.

Generally, people date several different people concurrently until they find one person with whom they feel they are truly compatible. After that, they usually devote themselves to that one relationship, unless, of course, that relationship breaks up, at which point they start the whole process over again).

FLIRTING

Everyone has the ability to flirt.

As little children, we do it naturally. Unfortunately, all that charm and grace usually gets lost somehwere along the path to adulthood.

What is flirting?

Many people don't have a clear idea of what exactly flirting is or how flirting differs from any other type of social interaction. Even people who engage in flirting tend to differ with each other as to its exact definition.

Webster defines flirting as behaving "amorously without serious intent." Sometimes, however, the intent can be very serious.

Flirting can perhaps better be defined as "relaxed, light-hearted communication between a male and a female with the intent of getting to know each other better."

Flirting is as simple as getting along with others, enthralling them with our sensuality and attractiveness, our humor and common sense. Unearth the treasures in your own personality, by rediscovering all those alluring traits you have been supressing.

Learn the social principles to fascinate, titillate, captivate and be great at love's most amusing sport.

Golden Rule Of Flirting

Flirting is a game. It is a mental game. And how you feel about flirting is the key to your flirting success.

Flirting doesn't require great logic, only diligence.

You need to overcome one basic human emotion to be successful in flirting.

Hurt.

Hurt from the past. Imagined hurts in the future. Even hearing, reading, reading about, seeing, and making assumptions about hurt that others have sustained. All these things keep us from moving ahead with our own flirting excursions.

Negative memories inhibit future relationships. Do yourself a favour by balancing these out of your mind.


The golden rule of flirting:

Do unto potential flirting partners as you would have them do unto you --- no matter what you think they've already done unto you.

Leave past romantic partners and current hurts out of your flirting plan. Stop trying to get back at them, By basing your flirting attitude soley on how successfully you are in treating others, your aura of attractiveness and invisible magnetism will expand.

Three Flirting Basics

No matter what you think, to be a great flirt it's not necessary to be devastaatingly attractive, rich, smooth, or good at batting your eyelashes. These assests are just window dressing for the sucessful flirt and pale in comparison to the three flirting basics.

The Three Flirting Basics:

1. Be Smart
2. Be Patient
3. Be Prepared

No matter what you think, to be a great flirt it's not necessary to be devastaatingly attractive, rich, smooth, or good at batting your eyelashes. These assests are just window dressing for the sucessful flirt and pale in comparison to the three flirting basics.

1. Be Smart

Be smart enough to assess a situation, so you know when flirting is appropriate. Use your logical mind along with your sensual feelings. Being smart means knowing ahead of time what you want to accomplish. Know that one rejection or triumph isn't the end-all of your social life.

2. Be Patient

To the person you are flirting with there is nothing so applealing as some-one who thinks he or she is worth waiting for. If you appear unhurried and give the imression you are not going to be dissuaded from your objective of impressing your target, your target will likely give in to your initial invitations - because being with you seems inevitable.

Who can resist someone who says in so many ways that you are worth his patient efforts?

Patient flirting means maintaining a repeated presence in the life of your flirting partner. You can do this by phone, by sending a birthday card, or by just being around their favourite hangout.


3. Be Prepared

Be on red-alert for flirting. Flirting takes place most successfully when you least expect it. Make being prepared a daily habit. Always be ready to say, "hi", to accept a compliment, to speak to someone new. Be presentable. Forget your troubles and smile.

As Forrest Gump's wise mama said in the movie, "Life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you're going to get." There will be new surprises and dilemmas, but the more you do of it, the more confidence you will have.